When Jesus came to earth He made the greatest sacrifice of self-abnegation and self-denial possible.  He humbled Himself and renounced His Divinity.  In other words, Jesus went out of Himself in order to enter into fellowship with us.  So why are we so against doing the work to enter into relationship with Him?  We’d like Jesus to just save, change, and sanctify us without  lifting a finger in the process. Or we’d rather bargain with Him first – (“You do this for me  first God, and maybe then I’ll start working on myself.”)  The bottom line is that we also must go out of ourselves in order to enter into a right relationship with God…and waiting around until He does all the work in our lives (that we need to be doing)  will never happen.