When the relationship is toxic and abusive…no matter what we do, it’s not good enough.  The Scripture in Romans, “Don’t repay evil for evil”  rings in our head as we’re assailed with angry words.  For many times this attack comes from a close family member who really needs our help…but also feels comfortable in using us to vent their frustrations.  If we can take a step back and ask the Lord to see that person through His eyes…we can often get a completely different perspective of why that person is behaving as they are.  It may have nothing to do with us at all, but rather in the person’s loss of control, declining health, or other personal problems they feel overwhelmed with.  It’s then that we can humble ourselves and persevere…relying on God’s grace and mercy.