Over the course of this Corona Virus pandemic I have spoken with many a frustrated Mom. Trying to juggle working from home, with home schooling their kids, with keeping house, with maintaining social distancing, and only left feeling at the end of the day they’re failing at all of it! So on this very unique Mother’s Day, let’s get rid of all the mushy Hallmark ideas of what a Mother should look like and be honest…there is no perfect Mother. None of us is or will be everything to all our children…nor will every need be met every time. That’s not because we can’t or don’t want to do it, it’s simply because we’re not perfect. And try as we might to strive for perfection as a Mother, we usually end up struggling with guilt and regret for what we see as failure on our part. But trust me, there’s never been a perfect Mother, for not even Mary, the Mother of Jesus was faultless. For what Mother would leave Jerusalem after the Feast of Passover “assuming” that her young son was “somewhere” among the group of people they were traveling with, only to find him missing at the end of a full day of travel? (Luke 2:42-44) So today, take a deep breath and give yourself some grace…put aside the self-imposed shortcomings and congratulate yourself on what you have accomplished. For where there’s shadows, there always has to be light first! Happy Mother’s Day!
I believe there is nothing more stronger, more dedicated, or more intense than a praying Mother for her children. For no matter how bleak or impossible the circumstances appear…she keeps praying. That’s because she will always see that son or daughter as a child…no matter how old they become…and that child will always have her heart. I truly believe that God smiles down on a Mother every time she prays for her children.
As children we may not look like we’re listening…but our heart is attentive. As teenagers we roll our eyes and sigh…thinking our parents are so out of touch and old fashion…but our heart is listening. And when we finally reach adulthood with some age under our belt, we look back at all the godly instruction and disciple we’ve received by our parents…and decide, they really did know best.
On this Mother’s Day I wish all Mothers a wonderful day. But this day may also hold for you many different and conflicting emotions… if your Mother has passed, it may be a very sad and melancholy time. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for your loss, and try to focus on the tender memories you have of her. If your Mother wasn’t the best person in the world, and you struggle with her short-comings…forgive and move on. We can be responsible to someone, but not responsible for them. Finally, one of the most remarkable things I discovered in my many years of managing Alzheimer’s facilities, is that as the person spirals down in the disease process, they would start wandering and “looking” for their Mother…even if they themselves were in their 90″s, they’d still be looking for that comfort only found in their Mother…May you also find that comfort today.