Tag Archive | pain of loss

Isaiah 54: 4-5 ” Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. For your Maker is your husband – the Lord Almighty is His name – the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; He is called the God of all the earth.”

If you’ve lost a spouse or gone through a divorce…you know exactly how it feels.  The loneliness and isolation are only compounded by the awkwardness of well-meaning friends.  Add to that the strict view of some Churches on divorce…you may have even been asked to leave your Church family all together.  So you try to cope with your loss as best as you can…struggling with fear and depression and feelings of self-defeat and failure.  But Isaiah is telling you here that your Creator, God Almighty,  is your husband (or spouse).  He is your Kinsman-Redeemer with a covenantal tie of love and loyalty only to you.  With God as your husband,  there’s no room anymore for those negative emotions of loss, shame, or rejection to fill your mind.  Yes, you may not be married in the legal sense…but you are espoused by a loving and faithful God.

II Samuel 22:7 ” In my distress I called to the Lord; I called out to my God. From His Temple He heard my voice; my cry came to His ears.”

Unfortunately, when we become Believers,  God doesn’t wrap us up in cotton batting and place us carefully in a box for safe keeping.  No, we’re subject to every evil and despicable thing the world can throw at us.  But in the midst of all the pain, suffering, anguish and grief,  we as Believers have one thing the rest of the world doesn’t… when we cry out to the Lord…He hears us.  This verse says that He hears my voice…He knows and recognizes my voice above the din of the whole universe.  But God doesn’t stop there…He acts when He hears our cry to Him…for when we summon the Lord,  He will come to our aid.

Psalm 88:18 ” You have taken my companions and loved ones from me; the darkness is my closest friend.”

I’ve seen this first hand with my elderly parents the past year.  Almost weekly,  a close friend, neighbor or acquaintance dies…usually from old age, but that still  doesn’t lessen the blow of their passing.  Even though death and dying is a part of life, we still  mourn and experience sadness in our loss.  The Psalmist here is lamenting to God that his friends, parents, or maybe children are gone…leaving him in a very dark place in his life.  We all at sometime in our lives will feel just like this Psalmist…grappling with the loneliness and sorrow of losing  loved ones.  And that’s OK.  Giving ourselves permission to grieve is a healthy and  vital part of the grieving process.  It’s OK also to feel lonely.  That person we’ve known so well has left, and what remains is a void…a gapping  hole in our heart of palatable  sadness.  It’s at that time that cherished memories help to bridge the chasm of grief.  Sharing those memories with others is also a way of slowly moving out of that dark place into the light.  For God knows exactly how you feel…He understands your pain…you may feel lonely, but with Him,  you’ll never be alone.