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Psalm 88:18 ” You have taken my companions and loved ones from me; the darkness is my closest friend.”

I’ve seen this first hand with my elderly parents the past year.  Almost weekly,  a close friend, neighbor or acquaintance dies…usually from old age, but that still  doesn’t lessen the blow of their passing.  Even though death and dying is a part of life, we still  mourn and experience sadness in our loss.  The Psalmist here is lamenting to God that his friends, parents, or maybe children are gone…leaving him in a very dark place in his life.  We all at sometime in our lives will feel just like this Psalmist…grappling with the loneliness and sorrow of losing  loved ones.  And that’s OK.  Giving ourselves permission to grieve is a healthy and  vital part of the grieving process.  It’s OK also to feel lonely.  That person we’ve known so well has left, and what remains is a void…a gapping  hole in our heart of palatable  sadness.  It’s at that time that cherished memories help to bridge the chasm of grief.  Sharing those memories with others is also a way of slowly moving out of that dark place into the light.  For God knows exactly how you feel…He understands your pain…you may feel lonely, but with Him,  you’ll never be alone.