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Matthew 6:12 ” Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.”

Peter asked Jesus just how many times he had to forgive someone, and he used the Old Testament number of seven. (Genesis 4:24)  But Jesus answered Peter’s question by saying, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”  So it’s not really about numbers, it’s more about our response to that transgression against us.  When we forgive someone, we’re letting go of resentment…we’re refusing to take offense…and we’re not allowing a root of  bitterness to grow.  For just as God forgives us, we must forgive others. (Matthew 6:14-15)

Mark 11:25 ” And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive your sins.”

The concept in this Scripture is very clear…forgive so that you may be forgiven.  So why yet do we find so much pleasure in holding onto grudges?  What starts out as a simple miscommunication or disagreement,  morphs into something with a life all its own.  Anger simmers, and shifts into resentment…frustration stews over how we’ve been wronged, and slowly changes into spite and hard feelings.  Holding grudges only harm ourselves…they allow the root of bitterness to take hold and flourish within…and they prevent God from working fully in our lives.

Colossians 3:21 ” Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”

We all want the very best for our children.  We also may want them to succeed in areas where we  didn’t…like Sports.  But just because that “mini-me” looks like you,  doesn’t mean he has any desire to be the football , basketball, or baseball star you weren’t back in the day.   Pushing kids into activities they aren’t excited about will only exasperate and infuriate everyone.  Each one of our children are unique  individuals,  with God- designed gifts, talents, and passions.  By building on their strengths, we can foster what the Lord wants for them, rather than what we’d like to live vicariously through them.