A victim mindset builds an altar to all the bad things that have happened and worships there…harping on the past and paying more attention to it than to the future.  A victim mindset is put in place early on when others show sympathy,  so we continue to seek that support and favor…using our past to gain attention.  Soon we are defined only by our past…and not of how God is moving in our present.  A victim mindset chains us to the past… never able to move ahead, and break free.  For every time those old hurtful memories are brought up and dwelled upon…we’re victimized again.