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I Corinthians 13:5 ” Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

If you want to see what a person is truly made of…put them in a long line, in the hot sun, waiting for something that may or may not arrive on time.  That’s when frustration and impatience boils over into selfish love.  This verse is interesting in that all it speaks of are examples of selfish love…of self-centered, looking out for #1 love that only thinks of itself.  We all have the opportunity daily to choose what type of love we’ll portray  to the world…the love of Christ or the selfish love of the world.  And as Believers, we are to be an example of Christ’s love to others…unfortunately, whether we’re a good example or a bad one.

I Corinthians 13:4 ” Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”

For the next few days I’m going to writing on the familiar verses in the 13th Chapter of I Corinthians, also known as the Love Chapter.  These verses tell us what Christian love should look like.  But even more importantly, they tell us what selfish self-centered love looks like.  The love Jesus taught of was an unconditional agape love…love that is compassionate, and understanding…refusing to retaliate or repay evil with evil.   But the love the world teaches of is egotistical, self-absorbed, and arrogant….refusing to put others first.  These verses will look at both types of love…selfish and unselfish, and their impact on the world.

Romans 12:10 ” Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

Later in the Bible, the Apostle Paul admonished the Church in Philippi to, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3)  This has to be one of the toughest things to do given mankind’s self-centered, egotistic nature.   Instead of seeking out our own 15 minutes of fame, we need to be trying to outdo one another in showing honor.  Rather than demanding respect, we need to be recognizing others and praising them for important work they’re doing.  Vanity looks for fame and glory, while humility moves “self”  off the throne as we esteem others.

Romans 5:8 ” But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

To move towards loving one another…we must move away from false definitions of love and let love be defined by the death of Christ.  Human love is selfish…it desires something in return and has strings attached.  But if we look at this verse, we see that we had nothing to do with the unconditional love God showed to us by sending Jesus to die for our sins.  In fact,  it says that God loved us before we even knew anything about Him…while we were still rebelling against anything Godly, it says,  He still loved us.  So to love one another as Christ loved us, our love must be as limitless and absolute as His…as selfless and merciful as the Cross.

II Peter 2:19 ” They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity – for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him.”

The selfish human nature is always striving for the liberty of self-determination.  “I want to do what I want, when I want to”, is our mindset.  But with that enticement comes deception and seduction as we wander farther and farther off the right path.  And sooner or later, we find ourselves in the middle of perversion, and wonder just how we got ourselves into such a mess.  In the search for freedom, we have instead become a piece of property…owned and controlled by depravity and lies.

Luke 16:13 ” No servant can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”

Where does your allegiance lie?  Do you hold firmly to your “things”…your material possessions…your earthly goods at the detriment of your Christian walk?  If you’ve been worshipping at the altar of retail shopping…has money and wealth now become your god?   The contrast between selfish love and the love of Christ couldn’t be farther apart and more difficult  to admit to in our own lives…but Jesus is also very plain in this scripture that we cannot serve both Him and money…For our loyalty can only be to one master.